There is to be met in society a man who is particularly provoking and supremely objectionable and offensive. He is about forty, very gentlemanly, self-possessed, irreproachably dressed, well informed, interesting talker, with a somewhat patronizing air, and an eternal smile of self-satisfaction on his face. This man has compromised more women than many a 'devil of a fellow.' If you say before him, 'Mrs. X. is very beautiful, isn't she?' he says nothing, but smiles complacently. So you look at him and add: 'Oh, you know her, then?' He smiles again. 'You don't say so!' you remark. 'I should have thought her a woman above the breath of suspicion.' He smiles still. You become persuaded that he is, or has been, on the most intimate terms with the lady in question. Mention before him the name of any woman you like to choose, and if the woman is in the least fashionable, or renowned for her beauty or position, he smiles. If at a ball he asks a lady to give him the pleasure of her partnership for a waltz or a polka, he leans close If he calls on a lady on her reception day, he has a way to salute her, to kiss her hand, to look at her in a patronizing way that seems to say to the other callers: 'See how ceremonious I am with her before other people, and what a good comedian I am!' And he smiles, smiles, and smiles. Women are ill at ease in his presence. They hate him, but as he is content with smiling, and goes no further, what are they to do? They avoid him when they can, his smiles are so compromising. And they are right. His smiles are more compromising than bon fide slander and calumny. The men hate him, too, but they feel as powerless as the women do. They would like to slap his face, but you cannot say to a man: 'I slap your face because I saw you smile on hearing my wife's name.' No, that would be too absurd. He knows it, and that is why he goes on smiling. He is safe. When he hears a bit of gossip on a woman, he immediately takes her defence, but in such a weak manner, and with such a smile on his face all the time, that people immediately come to the conclusion that 'it must be all true.' What is most provoking is that the man has not a For men who justly hold that women should be treated with such respect that no act of man should cause anyone to even breathe a light remark on their character, the man who smiles is a cur. |