  When a woman says of her husband, 'He is a wretch!' she may still love him; probably she does. When she says, 'Oh, he is a good sort'—poor fellow! After bravery and generosity, tact and discretion are the two qualities that women most admire in men; audacity comes next. Speaking of his wife, a Duke says, 'The Duchess'; a man standing always on ceremony, 'Mrs. B.'; a gentleman, 'My wife'; an idiot, 'My better half'; a common man, 'The missus'; a working man, as a compliment, 'The old woman'; a French grocer, 'La patronne'; a French working man, 'La bourgeoise.' The sweet French word 'Épouse' is only used now by Paris concierges. Women are roses. I always suspected it from the thorns. In the good old times of poetry and adventures, Woman is an angel who may become a devil, a sister of mercy who may change into a viper, a ladybird who may be transformed into a stinging-bee. Sometimes she never changes, and all her lifetime remains angel, sister of mercy, ladybird, and sweet fragrant flower. It depends a great deal on the gardener. When a man is on the wrong path in life, it is seldom he does not meet a woman who says to him, 'Don't go that way'; but when it is a woman who has lost her way, she always meets a man who indicates to her the wrong path. The Lord took from man a rib, with which He made a woman. As soon as this process was finished, woman went back to man, and took the rest of him, which she has kept ever since. The heart is a hollow and fleshy muscle which causes the blood to set in motion. It appears that this is what we love with. Funny! Circe was an enchantress who changed men into pigs. Why do I say was? I don't think that she is dead. Women were not born to command, but they have enough inborn power to govern man who commands, and, as a rule, the best and happiest marriages are those where women have most authority, and where their advice is oftenest followed. There are three ways for a man to get popular with women. The first is to love them, the second to sympathize with their inclinations, and the third to give them reasons that will raise them in their own estimation. In other words, love them, love what they love, or cause them to love themselves better. Love, always love. A woman knows that a man is in love with her long before he does. A woman's intuition is keener than her sight; in fact, it is a sixth sense given to her by nature, and which is more powerful than the other five put together. Very beautiful, as well as very good, women are seldom very clever or very witty; yet a beautiful woman who is good is the masterpiece of creation. A woman will often more easily resist the love which We admire a foreigner who gets naturalized in our own country, and despise a compatriot who makes a foreigner of himself. If a man joins our religion, we call him converted; if one of ours goes over to another, we call him perverted. In the same way, we blame the inconstancy of a woman when she leaves us for another, and we find her charming when she leaves another to come to us. The reputation that a woman should try to obtain and deserve is to be a sensible woman in her house and an amiable woman in society. Frivolous love may satisfy a man and a woman for a time, but only true and earnest love can satisfy a husband and a wife. Only this kind of love will survive the thousand-and-one little drawbacks of matrimony. Men and women can no more conceal the love they feel than they can feign the one which they feel not. Love feeds on contrasts to such an extent that you God has created beautiful women in order to force upon men the belief in His existence. Like all the other fruits placed on earth for the delectation of men, the most beautiful women are not always the best and the most delicious. In the heroic times of chivalry men drew their swords for the sake of women; in these modern prosaic ones they draw their cheques. Women entertain but little respect for men who have blind confidence in their love and devotion; they much prefer those who feel that they have to constantly keep alive the first and deserve the second. A woman can take the measure of a man in half the time it takes a man to have the least notion of a woman. There are three kinds of men: those who will come across temptations and resist them, those who will avoid them for fear of succumbing, and those who seek them. Young girls should bear in mind that husbands are not creatures who are always making love, any more than soldiers are men who are always fighting. A love affair will interest even a very old woman, just as the account of a race will always interest an old jockey. Habit, you see! The friendship of women for women is very often less based on love, or even sympathy, than on little indiscreet confidences which they may have made to one another. In order that love may be lasting, it must be closely allied with tried friendship. One cannot replace the other, but so long as both march abreast, living together, a man and a woman can find life delicious. It is not matrimony that kills love, but the way in which many people live in the state of matrimony. It may be affirmed, however, that only intelligent diplomatists (alas! the select few!) can make love last long in matrimonial life. Women who suggest to the mind notes of interrogation Constant reproaches do not kill love so quickly and so surely as constant reminders of what one has done to deserve gratitude. Why? Simply because Cupid loves freedom, and lives on it. To ask for love as a debt of gratitude is like forcing it, and the failure is fatal. Women are all actresses. What makes actresses so fascinating and attractive to men is that they are women twice over. Woman is weak and man is strong—so we constantly hear, at any rate. Then why, in the name of common-sense, do we expect to find in women virtues that demand a strength of which we men are not capable? There are women in the world who love with such ardour, such sincerity, and such devotion, that, after their death, they ought to be canonized. Love is a divine law; duty is only a human—nay, only a social—one. That is why love will always triumph over duty; it is the greater of the two. Lovers are very much like thieves; they proceed very much in the same way, and the same fate eventually A man who has been married enters the kingdom of heaven ex-officio, having served his purgatory on earth; but if he has been married twice he is invariably refused admittance, as the Sojourn of the Seraphs is no place for lunatics. As long as there is one woman left on the face of the earth, and one man left to observe her, the world will be able to hear something new about women. A man may be as perfect as you like, he will never be but a rough diamond until he has been cut and polished by the delicate hand of a woman. Middle-aged and elderly men are often embellished by characteristic lines engraven on their faces, but women are not jealous of them. A woman who marries a second time runs two risks: she may regret that she lost her first husband, or that she did not always have the second one. But, in the first case, her second husband may regret her first one even more than she does, and tell her so, too. Many men say that they marry to make an end; but they forget that if marriage is for them an end, it is a beginning for the women, and then, look out! It is a great misfortune not to be loved by the one you love; but it is a still greater one to be loved by the one whom you have ceased to love. Love is like most contagious diseases: the more afraid you are of it, the more likely you are to catch it. Men and women have in common five senses; but women possess a sixth one, by far the keenest of all—intuition. For that matter, women do not even think, argue, and judge as safely as they feel. Cupid and Hymen are brothers, but, considering the difference in their temperaments, they cannot be sons by the same wife. The motto of Cupid is, 'All or nothing'; that of Hymen, 'All and nothing.' Love is more indulgent than Friendship for acts of infidelity. If men were all deaf, and women all blind, matrimony would stand a much better chance of success. |
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