Never Say "Can't." Many have the habit of keeping their minds on their weaknesses or their shortcomings. If they read of some one doing a great thing or making a worth-while accomplishment, they say: "I never could do such a thing." These persons are always saying, "I never have luck. I can't do this. I can't do that." Always knocking, always thinking "can't" instead of "can" makes for fear, irresoluteness, uncertainty and weakness of character. To say, "I can't, I haven't the ability, I am unlucky" makes you weak and knocks out all chance for doing things. Nothing comes out of the brain that wasn't burned in by thought. If you disparage yourself, belittle your capacity, or drown your good impulses with doubt and self-accusation, you are putting away a lot of bad thought in your brain, and no wonder you will lack in initiative, ambition, confidence and courage. To those who claim to be unlucky, I want to You start at undertakings with a handicap of fear. You have made up your mind that you can't accomplish. You are half beaten before the game starts. In place of the will to achieve, you approach your task in fear and trepidation. In place of confidence and courage and high aspirations, you set out on your journey with the millstone of doubt and irresolution around your neck. Confidence and Success. There is but one way to succeed. That is to cast fear and self-accusation aside, and throw your full weight into the struggle with a song on your lips and confidence in your heart. "Victory" should be your battlecry and "Confidence" should be emblazoned on your shield. Many a man has been whipped in a fight, defeated in a contest, or beaten at an undertaking, but he didn't show it or let the other fellow know it. He just kept on with a brave front, and finally the other fellow quit, mistaking grim determination, pluck and perseverance for strength and victory. Ethan Allen with his handful of men were asked to surrender by the British general with his superior force. By all the rights and rules of war, Ethan was licked, but he didn't give in. Don't show the enemy or the world your weakness. Don't admit anything impossible that is capable of accomplishment. It's the "I can" man who wins. No man ever won a fight if he started out by saying, "I can't whip him, he is too much for me; I am no match for him, but I'll try." No person ever made success in business if he started in with uncertainty, lack of confidence and unbelief in his ability. Confidence has ever been half the battle. The World's Judgment. Knock yourself, and the world will accept you at your own estimate. Show streaks of yellow cowardice, and the mob will pounce on you like a pack of hungry wolves. Accuse yourself, curse your luck, belittle your worth, be afraid, and you will remain a mere bump on a log, unnoticed, uninteresting, uninvited. The world welcomes men who do things. The world judges by outward appearances. If your heart is sick, if your courage is low, don't show it. Put up a stiff attitude and act with confi Show strength and the world will help you; show weakness and the world will shun you. You are prejudiced when it comes to judging yourself. You compare your weakness with your friends' strength, and this comparison is unfair; it makes you lose confidence. Doubt and Belief. Nothing hurts one worse than doubting one's own ability, assets, and character. When you find yourself experiencing doubt, or inability, or hard luck, turn square around and say: "Begone, doubt; henceforth I have belief." Say: "I have ability; I have pluck, and pluck means luck." Always express confidence, faith, courage, and cheer thoughts, whether you feel them or not. Do this heroically and persistently, and soon the fear shadows and weakness feelings will leave you, and you will be in reality strong, courageous, active, and will do things you never thought possible. "As a man thinketh, so is he." Always remember that. Get hold of your thoughts; make yourself think up, and have faith and courage. Hold to your No man will be more surprised at your complete change of attitude and character than yourself. Your problems can only be solved by yourself. Friends can advise, I can suggest, but YOU must act. Henceforth, never accuse yourself, never feel sorry for your condition or position, cut out fear thoughts,—be strong. Think faith, courage, cheer, confidence, and strength, and by-and-by the habit will be fixed and natural. This is as certain truth as I have ever experienced. I know it. I've tried it. I've watched others and the results are always good. Don't be passive and forget this chapter. Start right this minute to THINK RIGHT. And you will never regret and never forget this chapter on Self-accusation. |